Sex and Pregnancy: Maintaining Comfort and Intimacy

If you’re on your pregnancy journey, congratulations! There’s nothing quite like it, is there? It’s magical, wonderful, and a little terrifying all at once. But aside from the sickness, reflux, and sleepless nights, things might also feel a little different when it comes to intimacy.

For many couples, maintaining intimacy during pregnancy can be a delicate balance between comfort and connection. It’s common for sex drives to fluctuate, and it’s perfectly normal for your desires and experiences to change across the different trimesters.

So, let’s take a closer look at how to maintain intimacy and comfort during pregnancy.

Embracing Changes in Your Sex Drive

First and foremost, it’s important to acknowledge that fluctuating sex drives during pregnancy are completely normal. Hormonal changes, physical discomfort, and emotional shifts can all influence your desire for sex. Some people may find their sex drive increases, while others may feel a drop in libido.

Open communication with your partner about these changes is crucial for maintaining intimacy and understanding.

Addressing Discomfort: When Sex Hurts

It’s not uncommon for women to experience discomfort or painful sex during pregnancy. If sex does hurt, it’s really important to identify the root cause so you can find effective solutions to ease the pain.

Here are some of the most common causes of pain during pregnancy:

Hormonal Changes

Hormonal changes can lead to increased vaginal dryness, particularly due to a decrease in oestrogen levels. This dryness can make sex uncomfortable, or even painful. You might also experience increased blood flow to the pelvic area, which can make vaginal tissues more sensitive and prone to discomfort.

Physical Changes

As your pregnancy progresses, a growing bump can make certain positions uncomfortable (or downright impractical). This can lead to awkward angles or pressure points that cause pain. The weight of your growing uterus can also make sex uncomfortable due to the extra pressure on the pelvic floor muscles.

Emotional Changes

Pregnancy can be exhausting! Being overly tired can decrease libido and make sex feel more strenuous. Then there’s the added stress and anxiety that come with this magical time in your life – from concerns about your baby’s health and body image, to anxiety about performance or discomfort.

Medical Conditions

Vaginal infections, such as thrush or bacterial vaginosis, are more common during pregnancy and can make sex painful. It’s also common for pregnant women to experience Round Ligament Pain, where sudden movements can trigger sharp pains. And let’s not forget SPD (Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction), where pain and discomfort in the pelvic region can make intercourse uncomfortable.

It’s incredibly important to talk to your midwife, GP, or healthcare provider if you’re concerned about any pain or discomfort during your pregnancy – during sex or otherwise. This will help to rule out any underlying conditions.

The good news? A lot of the discomfort women experience during intimacy in pregnancy is caused by vaginal dryness.

Why is that good news, we hear you ask?

Because with the right lubricant or vaginal moisturiser, you can get back to enjoying a more comfortable sex life!

Choosing Safe Lubricants and Moisturisers

When it comes to choosing the right products in pregnancy, safety is paramount. Not all lubricants are created equal, and during pregnancy it’s essential to choose options that are safe for both you and your baby.

Safe Lubricants for Pregnancy

Look for lubricants that are free from harmful chemicals and fragrances. These are gentle on sensitive skin and reduce the risk of irritation or allergic reactions. Avoid silicone-based lubricants, as they can disrupt the delicate vaginal microbiome and potentially lead to infections.

The full range of YES® lubricants are plant-based, pH-matched, and certified organic for your peace of mind.

Moisturisers for Comfort

In addition to lubricants, vaginal moisturisers can help maintain comfort by keeping the vaginal area hydrated. Moisturisers are especially helpful if you’re experiencing prolonged dryness. Again, opt for products specifically designed for safe use during pregnancy.

Our best-selling vaginal moisturiser, YES® VM, boasts a smart moisture release system that provides up to three days’ relief from vaginal dryness. Oh, and it’s plant-based, pH-matched, and certified organic too!

Tips for Staying Intimate During Pregnancy

Maintaining intimacy during pregnancy goes beyond intercourse alone. Here are some ways to keep the connection strong:

• Explore Different Positions: As your body changes, some positions may become uncomfortable. Experiment with new ones that accommodate your growing bump – spooning or side-lying positions are often more comfortable in later trimesters.

• Prioritise Foreplay: Extended foreplay can increase natural lubrication and make sex more comfortable. It’s also a lovely way to connect emotionally as well as physically.

• Use Pillows for Support: Pillows can provide much-needed support and make certain positions more comfortable by relieving pressure on your back and hips.

• Stay Physically Active: Gentle exercise throughout pregnancy can improve blood flow, reduce stress, and increase overall wellbeing, which can positively affect your sex drive.

• Communicate Openly: Keep the lines of communication open with your partner. Discuss your feelings, desires, and any discomfort you may be experiencing. It will help both of you navigate the changes together.

Making Pregnant Sex Great Again

Maintaining comfort and intimacy during pregnancy is all about understanding, communication, and finding what works best for you and your partner.

It’s also about keeping a good stock of safe-to-use lubricants and moisturisers!

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