Our top tips for enjoying sex while menopausal

Menopause marks a significant transition in a woman's life, but it doesn’t have to mean the end of your sex life. Many women find that their intimacy can be just as satisfying, if not more so, during and after menopause. It does mean that there may be some changes to adjust to.

Understanding Menopausal Changes

During menopause (defined as when you haven’t had a period for 12 months) and the preceding years of perimenopause, your body’s oestrogen levels drop significantly. This hormonal shift can affect sexual functions, which can lead to decreased desire and difficulties in arousal. It also can make the vaginal canal less stretchy, and you may experience vaginal dryness, leading to pain during sex. More than a third of women in menopause report having sexual difficulties, from lack of interest in sex to trouble having an orgasm (1).

Here, we explore ways to help you embrace your sexuality and put the enjoyment back into sex and intimacy whilst menopausal.

Overcoming Vaginal Dryness

At least 17% of women will experience vaginal or vulval dryness, and the numbers soar to as many as 90% for postmenopausal women (2). Meaning menopausal women often struggle with sex and intimacy as well as navigating day-to-day life with pain and discomfort. The great news is there are very effective ways to treat vaginal dryness naturally. Still, your first point of call should always be your doctor or gynaecologist.

Using a vaginal moisturiser daily and good lubrication during sex can provide natural relief from these symptoms. You can find out more about our pH matched Natural Vaginal Moisturiser here. You can also find out more on our dedicated Vaginal Dryness Guide.

Experiment with Lubricants and Toys

When it comes to lubrication, wetter really is better. Using a lubricant can help reduce friction and enhance sensation. All YES® lubricants are plant-based, certified organic, pH matched to the vagina and designed to be side effect free. Whether you’re experiencing dryness or irritation, or just want to enjoy the luxurious feeling of YES® products, discover our range of lubricants here.

Did you know you can also use two lubricants at the same time? Both our water-based and oil-based lubricants can be used together.

Another thing to try is incorporating sex toys, such as vibrators or massagers, into your sex life. Whether during masturbation or with a partner, finding a toy that works for you can add excitement and variety to your sexual experiences. Take a look at Kaito Sky, the first vulval and clitoral vibrator recommended and sold by us!

The smooth, flat surface of Kaito Sky had been made with external and vulval massage in mind.  Kaito Sky has a soft textured finish and teardrop-shaped tip, ideal for stimulating the clitoris and massaging the vaginal entrance or perineal area.

Prioritise Self-Exploration

It’s essential to take the time to reconnect with your body and explore what feels pleasurable to you. What feels good can change over time. The best way to do this is to experiment with different types of touch and explore your erogenous zones and different masturbation techniques to discover what brings you pleasure and arousal. Remember, your body is unique, so what works for someone else may not necessarily work for you.

Communicate with Your Partner

Open and honest communication with your partner is not only crucial for supporting a fulfilling sex life during menopause but also for setting realistic expectations about what you can do sexually and achieving intimacy as you age. Discussing desires, concerns, and any changes you may be experiencing can foster understanding and empathy between partners. By openly communicating, you can explore new ways to make each other feel good and deepen your connection. Remember, everyone's experience of both menopause and pleasure is different, so it's essential to focus on what works best for you.

Focus on Sensuality

Instead of solely focusing on orgasm as the end goal, embrace the journey of sensuality and intimacy. Engage in activities that heighten your senses, such as sensual massages, erotic literature, or intimate conversations. By prioritising sensuality, you can enhance arousal and enjoyment, regardless of whether orgasm occurs.

Top Tip: Our oil-based lubricant YES® OB also doubles as a massage oil! Great for taking your sensual massage to the next level.

Seeking Support

Don't hesitate to seek support from healthcare professionals or sex therapists if you're experiencing challenges with sexual function or satisfaction during menopause. They can provide guidance, resources, and personalised strategies to help you overcome obstacles and enjoy a satisfying sex life.

Menopause may bring changes to your body and sex life, but it doesn't have to diminish your pleasure and enjoyment. By prioritising self-exploration, open communication, and experimentation, you can unlock new levels of sexual satisfaction and intimacy during and after menopause.

References:

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/how-sex-changes-after-menopause

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29553288/

https://www.yesyesyes.org/pages/menopausal-dryness

Institute of Psychosexual Therapy: https://www.ipm.org.uk/patients/specialists/ 

College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists: https://www.cosrt.org.uk/search-members/